Ask for opinion
Use human nature! People are focused on themselves most of the time. So you can ask for an opinion! Everyone has one! If you sit next to someone in a restaurant or a hotel lobby, ask about their drinks or food. Ask someone in the art gallery about his opinion of the exhibition. Make it simple. You don’t need to start the conversation with a complicated topic. I guarantee you that people will give you the answer! They will appreciate your kind asking because it is something rare.
Do you want to start a conversation? Ask for recommendation!
Ask for restaurants, books or shops! To start a conversation with someone, compliment the outfit and ask for fashion advice! By giving people honest approbation, you will gain extra points for your charisma.
Tell about something around you.
No matter where you are, it is something you can complement for sure. The interiors, background music or architecture. When you say it loudly, people around you can interact with you.
Ask about the current situation.
When you see someone with a dog, you can ask about the breed or his name. You can also ask someone at the gym about exercise. Ask people about their work in coworking places. Genuine interest in someone’s pets or hobbies is a fantastic start to a conversation with anybody!
Storytime!
Once I went to a beautiful sky bar in Warsaw, one of my favourite places in the city. The Panorama Sky Bar in a Marriott Hotel. I took pictures there. When I was busy by shooting (the view and interiors there are marvellous) I heard a simple question – ‚Hi, are you a professional photographer?’. I saw a man who observed me, and he decided to start a conversation. We talked about photography and interior design. He saw that I was busy, but when he asked about the topic I was passionate about, I decided to continue the conversation. He was an excellent networker because he was aware of people’s psychology and the opportunities around him.
If you are kind and you smile, you will attract people easily!
Ask for the information.
When I travelled alone to Zurich, I didn’t check how to get from the airport to the city centre. I assumed that maybe by train but when I arrived I felt confused. I asked the first person who walked next to me. By this, I met Kevin, who was also heading towards the city centre. He helped me with the train tickets. During the train trip, we had an inspiring conversation about his startup.
Asking for information can give you what you need, but it can be an opportunity to meet someone. Of course, not every person will be able (and want to) continue the conversation after helping you, but it is always worth trying!
How to start a conversation and meet a new people? Introduce yourself directly.
This option requires more courage, but you can try it! Introducing yourself is a common option in clubs or lounges. Men often start a conversation with ‚Hi, I m Mike…’ when they want to meet women in the bar. Why not use it outside the bar? People can be a little bit surprised, but they will be also curious about you and your self-confidence! This will be perfect when you are at business events or in a new office. But use it whenever you want to!
Pay attention to details.
Start to ‚scanning’ your environment. To start a conversation with someone, you need to find something about their appearance or even clothing! Maybe you see the person next to you using the laptop from the brand you love. Or he has an elegant bag. You can start with ‚Very stylish bag, where did you buy it? I m searching for something similar for my dad!’.
Tips:
Be proactive!
Do not wait until someone starts a conversation with you. Be proactive and take your life into your hands. It sounds cliche, but the truth is WE ALL WILL DIE. So is better to try rather than miss the opportunity. We all feel stressed when we talk with new people. We all were rejected. We all make mistakes. Proactive people get what they want because they don’t wait. They take it.
Avoid sensitive subjects.
Politic, covid, or war are subjects you should avoid. In general, try to focus on positive or neutral topics (but not the weather ;)). Starting a conversation with risky subjects can only give a headache.
Avoid asking a ‚close’ question.
If the answer can be only yes or no, then is hard to continue the conversation.
Put down the phone!
Scrolling through Instagram is a more exciting option than getting out of your comfort zone. But to start a conversation with somebody you have to put down your phone. Your eyes should ‚meet’ people. Your body language is key to starting a conversation and meeting new people. Grumpy people who have their noses on the phone screen cant attract nobody.
Check the previous articles:
➤ ‘HOW TO CREATE A LUXURIOUS EVERYDAY LIFE‘
➤ ‘Where to meet successful people?’
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